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Sacred Sexuality

In our sexually obsessed culture, we are given amazingly little information about how to deal with sexuality in a healthy way. For many people, sex is even more seductive than money. Our media, advertising, and entertainment industries are filled with subtle and not-so-subtle messages about sex. The underlying thrust is all about beauty, sexual desire, and how important it is to buy the products or operations which will make us popular, more attractive, and better lovers.

And even though advertising and entertainment are filled with sexual innuendo, it is rare that you will find anything other than tabloids and women’s magazines talking openly about both the joys and challenges of sex. In many communities, homes, and workplaces, serious discussion of sexuality is a taboo subject.

It is also extremely rare that any of society’s many sexual messages even hints at the spiritual dimensions of sex. To those who have succumbed to all of these subliminal and overt messages, sacred sexuality might even seem like a contradiction in terms. Considering all of this, how can we transform sexual energy in our lives and in our world to better support the good of all of us?

Almost the opposite of societal conditioning, many of the world’s religions imprint negative beliefs of sexuality in their followers. For thousands of years, these religions have considered sex largely to be a base and vulgar act.

Sexuality gets little mention in the sacred texts of Judaism, Islam, and Christianity. When it is mentioned, the suggestion is often to avoid it if possible in order to reach greater spiritual heights. Many monks and gurus also teach that we must refrain from sex in order to reach enlightenment. Yet none of us would be here without sex. There is virtually no spiritual instruction in how to deal with sexual urges other than to abstain. As a result, many people experience a split between sexuality and spirituality in their lives.

For a powerful, yet deeply personal exploration of the sexual-spiritual split by a wonderful workshop facilitator who was willing to explore his own wounds with workshop participants, please read the engaging six-page story at the link below.

Picucci, Sexual Spiritual Split

Sure, we could talk about the pressure of holidays and relapse prevention. Should have said something….

When I first started talking in meetings (after I was well into the 12 step work) I would usually talk about principles. The authors stated in the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous that the 12 steps are an introduction to a set of principles. As I was just getting started this is what I talked about.

I came to refer to these principles as “Universal Principles”. At some point I decided it would be a good idea to integrate the principles into my life in a way that it would develop into a whole. That I would think and react according to these new principles instead of my old set of principles. By doing this I would be able to change my “me” from the inside out.

I spoke of principles as cause. It’s easy for people to understand a cause and effect system. If we look at principles as cause then changing the principles would change the thoughts and reactions. Principles (as cause) = thoughts, reactions and feelings (as effect).

A set of principles established through fear, or disharmony, might be dishonesty, unwillingness and closed mindedness. So disharmony = disease, discord, discontent, while harmony = health, happiness and general well being.

At first we might have to start small with our experimentation. We may need to learn how these new principles might create harmony within us and with the people closest to us. Those closest could be people at meetings, at work, at home or at the park. This, starting small would seem to be a logical tack to take.

What I found was that I wasn’t going to have harmonious relationships with everyone since I wasn’t in charge of them. If people want to act like assholes there is little I can do about it. From that point, of accepting reality, I only get to be in charge of my reaction to them. This became a really good test to see how well I’d done integrating my new principles. In fact this was human relations: social relationships – 101.

So far I’ve managed not to kill anyone or take drugs.

Which brings me to my latest thoughts on integration. I was watching a video interview with R. Buckminster Fuller. (You can watch it at DgsWilson|Vimeo.com|Buckminster Fuller) There was a lot of good stuff but the thing that stood out for me was how he saw nature and his ideas of being in harmony with it.

Mr. Fuller, was always smart. What he said he lacked was the killer instinct and that made it hard for him to be a societal success. This led him to where he was broke, had a wife and newborn baby, and decided he’d never amount to anything and that if he killed himself everyone would be better off. I understand Buck…

He also decided that since committing suicide was a pretty big deal he should do some serious thinking. I’ll let him tell you his story. I’ll focus on how the conclusions he came to fall in line with my own. You see I’ve gotten to the point myself of seeing absolutely no reason to stick around. The only reasons I could come up with is that I might find out something good about the whole life system and somehow help someone else – if I could find it.

What I found, once I started looking, was that life had little to do with what I’d been taught. In fact, up to that point, I’d hardly learned anything “Real” about anything. I started learning things about the universe and the system of life and for the first time I was really interested in staying around and finding out more.

The Universe Is Regenerative

Buckminster Fuller recognized that the universe is regenerative. It has everything it needs to keep itself going. In our experience here on earth we can see this at work. Nature – has everything it needs to keep going, to go on living and living abundantly.

What does nature need? What do plants and animals need? Soil, water, air, sunlight. The universe provides all this (for free). I’d been thinking along this theme of harmony with the universe for a while. I’ve written little pieces here and there but I was missing the word “Regenerative”. That’s the perfect word. It’s a perfect descriptive.

Now maybe you’re wondering, what difference does it make if we know how the universe works – how does that help us right now. It might not, you might walk outside and get hit by a baseball and spend 40 years in a coma – then die. If not, we’ll see.

So we have what? A regenerative universe which provides for it’s own. It’s own being the natural world. The natural world being what? Everything that exists? This becomes sort of a debate so let me give my view. Nature is as nature does. We know nature by it’s nature. Not so much in a things outward appearance but as it’s innate characteristics. This is where the word regenerative is so welcome. Regenerative is the characteristic of nature. If it’s not regenerative it’s not nature.

One of the principles operating in the natural world, as I see it, is Cooperation. Cooperation is an aspect of nature’s character. It could be referred to as the spirit of cooperation. I cooperated with a 12 step program and now I’m sober and happy. I integrated principles into my “me” system and I have less anxiety, confusion, anger and so on.

Can I, asked Buckminster Fuller, integrate myself with this universe. Maybe we can. But what would be our example, our model. We’d have to look to nature. It’s probably necessary that we make a couple of fundamental adjustments in our thinking. If we think about nature’s being integrated in the regenerative universe we could say that nature is cooperating with the synergistic system of the universe.

After thinking about this for a while I saw that if I was truly integrated I would see myself as the universal system. I would see myself as a provision. Provided for and provider. Isn’t that they way the regenerative universe operates? Again, as with the integration of principles, we start close to home and work with what’s at hand. We can set about becoming functionally regenerative. All we’d need to do is adjust our thinking. As a result we’d probably end up adjusting some behaviors. Any behaviors which weren’t regenerative would be set aside.

I’m not finished with this. I’m starting and continuing to learn all the time. But I wanted to introduce the language so you could mess around with the idea. Okay have fun…as long as it’s, you know, regenerative fun.

Dreams, The Brain And Memory

One of the questions I ask my brain concerning dreams is, “Where the hell did that come from?” Usually followed up with “Why?”

Last night, or this morning, I noticed something – I’ve never had a dream that wasn’t built from memories. I’ve talked a lot about the brain and what it does and what we call thinking. I’ve also said that while brain may be a part of mind, it’s probably not a very big part.

I think the brain is a combination of – Storage Device, browser (renders data onto our view screen) and Wave Receiver. What I believe it receives, or can receive, is the content of the universal mind. Universal mind I would simply say is data. All the data that can exist, exists in the universal mind. How? – don’t know. Why? – don’t know. I’d like to, so I work at developing my receiver. Is it working? I don’t know….probably, something seems to be changing.

If you recall any dream you’ve ever had, can you find anything in it that isn’t contained in memory? You see people, anybody wearing anything new, something you haven’t seen people wear? Even if you don’t recognize what they’re wearing – there still wearing something and that comes from memory. They may be wearing blue goo – who hasn’t seen that in some movie or cartoon?

You dream of monsters, sex, confusing situations, embarrassment, joy, love and so on – all stuff from memory. I wonder what babies dream about. Do they dream? I’ve never been around one for any length of time so I can’t say.

The other question is why. Why would the brain find it necessary to render all this crap to me – right when I want to go to sleep? Or, render it while I’m sleeping and wake me up? I’d say my brain doesn’t like me but that would mean I have a sentient being living in my head. Is that possible? It is in the movies.

When I stopped using drugs and started figuring out how I was going to live, with myself, I started looking in to all of this with great vigor (like my life depended on it). This led me to listen closely to the following people:

• Eckart Tolle

Power of Now at the pdf Library

Eckhart Tolle Video

• Jiddu Krishnamurti

Video – J.Krishnamurti

• Pema Chodron

Audio – Pema Chodron

Understanding the brain and our relationship to it, in the context laid out by the above authors, has helped me immensely. It’s helped me when wanting to figure something out. I don’t use my brain to figure things out in a thinking way. I’ve found the brain is fairly useless in this regard and more of a hindrance to real problem solving.

note: There’s a difference between problems and puzzles. Puzzles have pre-existing pieces available here on earth. Brain is great for this puzzle play. Problems are things that man has yet to find a solution to. Problems which occur post-solution is just orneriness.

Now as a receiver it works pretty good. The main hindrance in this department is my lack of knowledge in how to tune the brain to be a better receiver. I used binuaral beats for this. Play with them at: Audio Player/Audio Playlist, and listen to the one titled Ascension Harmonics.

Ascension Harmonics deal with using sound to tune the DNA, yes, long story but well within the grasp of the brain. Anything that’s been found out on earth can be grasp by the brain. It will assign it to memory. Be careful – this is how all goofy fundamentalism is formed. Be ready to discard anything at any time regardless of emotional attachment.

Remember the answer to all problems is available. It just isn’t necessarily available here – In memory. So the brain will never be able to access it through thinking. But – As a receiver, able to connect with universal mind…..As always, have fun…..